welcome to the effortless English show with the world's number one English
teacher AJ Hogue where AJ's more than 40 million students worldwide finally learn
English once and for all without the boring textbooks classrooms and grammar drills
here's AJ with a quick piece to help you learn to speak fluent English effortlessly
your mission your life purpose what is it what is your life purpose do you know
and what is the difference between a purpose and a mission we'll talk about
both very similar ideas why is it important to have a life purpose or a life mission
why because you know a lot of people maybe you I know myself in the past we feel lost like we're
doing things we're going we're trying to achieve goals maybe you're trying to make more money
get a better job or a better career learn to speak English fluently I don't lose weight and get
stronger get a black belt in Jiu Jitsu whatever right we've got all these goals right all these uh
uh very specific goals in life and sometimes we get those goals we achieve them but then
we actually don't feel much happier maybe we're a little excited we're happy for a short time and
then that feeling of excitement or happiness goes away and then we're like well now what do I do
you know like I'll give you an example of this for myself is that uh you know I I when I was a
runner I was doing a lot of running I did a few marathons and uh it was always fun to train for
a marathon because of course when I was training for a marathon it's not just the one day of the
marathon Race but more like six months before the race of training it gave me a lot of motivation
a clear goal to focus on in the first time I just wanted to finish I just wanted to survive
it and uh and then later I would try to get some specific time you know like under four hours under
three hours 45 minutes right something like that and it worked very well for that which was very
motivating was very um easy to uh train every day because I knew that the the big race was
coming and I needed to get ready but what's the problem the problem is that then the race ended
so I'd run the race and I achieved my goal I you know I beat my time from before and everything's
great wonderful now what and then what happens is you can lose motivation right then ah your
goal is finished you achieved it or you didn't but then then you're like well now what do I do
right so the power of goals is they are very specific very specific in fact when you read books
about goal setting they always talk about this to make a good goal it needs to be specific and needs
to be measurable this is another thing that people tell you right you'll read about it all the time
that your goal should be measurable so not only very specific but you need to know exactly did
you achieve the goal or not so if you say I want to run faster it's kind of specific
but it's not specific enough like what's the measurement right what's the measurement so
it's much better that you say uh I want to run a marathon in less than three hours 45 minutes
right then that's a very specific goal because faster can mean anything faster for a professional
Runner that's slow three hours 45 minutes is not fast at all for a professional runner in fact
that's super slow okay but for me that was fast so that's the point right it really depends on you
so that's why with goals they're very very specific but this is also their weakness
right because they're specific and measurable and also they have a deadline they have a
specific time they end right if you say I want to run a marathon in under four hours someday
that's not a goal that's not a goal because when are you gonna do it now you know this
year 10 years from now 30 years from now right it's it's not really a goal because it's it's
there's no deadline there's no date there's no time and therefore you can just kind of forget
about it it's easy to forget about it right you won't you won't be motivated you won't
really take strong action because the goal is not uh specific and there's no time deadline
so all of these are very good things goals are good things they're helped to us to achieve
specific results they're good for motivating us for a time period sometime that might be you know
one month and it might be you know two years depends on the goal but the problem with the
goal is that it's too specific and it ends and this is why you also need a mission or
a purpose I would say in your life generally and also for your career maybe for your family
it's best if you can make one mission or purpose I'm just going to use those two words as kind of
very similar okay a mission or a purpose that you can use for your personal life and your
working life so if it fits everything that is a powerful purpose or a powerful mission
and what is what is a purpose or a mission exactly well it it answers the question why
why this is the key thing about a mission it tells you why you were doing something
a goal doesn't really tell you why you say I will run a marathon in under four hours
that's very specific and I'm going to do it this year before the end of the year okay nice goal
very specific you can measure it specific time great it's a good goal but it's a terrible mission
why because it doesn't tell you why why are you running a marathon
what's the point what's the purpose of running the marathon for you
and this is where we get in trouble and a lot of people for example don't think
about this too deeply this is especially true in work and with topics about money
where people will make a goal I want to be a millionaire I want to be a billionaire I want
to make a million dollars in one year they have all these nice goals I want to get a
better job and they have a general idea well because it'll be fun to have a lot of money
I'll have less stress you know there's some benefits to the goal right
but that's not what I'm talking about a mission is deeper it's bigger the why of a mission is
like what's the deepest reason for making more money for you and I believe that a purpose
really needs to have the idea of devotion and contribution at the center at the core
that's what a mission is I'm just going to use the word Mission okay so a mission
is about serving helping loving others that's the difference right a goal is really for you
right or can be I'll run a marathon less than four hours just because I want to okay am I
helping anybody no is that serving anybody else not really unless we think about it more deeply
so what we would need is we need a big mission a big mission that inspires us because this is the
thing just doing things for yourself is nice but it doesn't really inspire you it will not energize
you it will not motivate you at the highest level I think this is a spiritual law a dharmic law
that somehow love and serving and contributing and helping others somehow super energizes us far more
than trying to just benefit only for us right it energized as it super motivates us and gives us
super strength superpower if you're a parent you understand this you will do things for your child
that you won't do for yourself you will suffer for your child in a way you won't
suffer for yourself you'll work harder for your child than you will for yourself
right you will experience pain and worry and make huge efforts for your children
and go through a huge amount of stress and difficulty for your child or your children than
for yourself I know this is true for myself uh you know before my children uh I was much lazier
and uh I've I I yeah I thought and I was weaker I was weaker I was weaker I thought like I oh I
can't handle getting up early in the really early in the morning I hated it and I can't
handle getting a small amount of sleep and I can't I thought all these things right I would so they
were excuses but then my children came and then we had some stressful you know some health very
serious health problems with one of my children and we had hospital stays and and I had like
four years of terrible sleep and I would go days with almost no sleep especially in the beginning
and I survived and I did it because I would never have done that for myself just for myself
to achieve some goal just for me I never would have done any of that it was too difficult but
for my child I did it and I became stronger and you will too so this is a general spiritual idea
that serving others and of course the highest level would be Devotion to God obviously
but um in this world where you know in this life we're in now it also means just I think in a more
uh it's a little easier sometimes to understand serving other people right it's part of it
and so what you want to do is find a mission in your life where you contribute to others and then
you want to make a it's called a mission statement businesses have destroyed this
idea unfortunately because a lot of businesses will have a mission statement big companies and
they're they're meaningless they don't follow them they're just a bunch of marketing but
um that's not what we want we want a real mission statement a mission statement is why are you alive
why do you do everything you do in your life and you want it to be big and inspiring to
you number one big and inspiring to you number two it's about serving contributing to others
it's not just about yourself number three is that it needs to be actually fairly General this is
the opposite of a goal right a goal you want very specific as I just said but for remission
it needs to be General y because you will use it in all parts of your life you think of the
mission is the big General why your your deepest highest motivation for everything you do in life
it has to be General because it has to connect to everything in your life your personal life
your working life everything and then under that mission you have lots of little goals
and goals become really powerful when you connect them to a higher Vision a higher purpose let me
give you a quick example so maybe you decide your mission is uh to to serve to love to help
people or maybe be more specific your family your children okay maybe your mother or father and
being a parent is is your highest level mission in life right so you decide that okay serving my
children helping my children loving my children is my highest mission that's my mission in life
great and then you also have a goal you want to run a marathon what if you connect the two
instead of just saying I want to run a marathon for four hours under four hours why why so that I
will have more energy I'll have more Fitness I'll have more endurance in order to serve my children
then I'll have more energy for my kids I'll wake up and I'll have more energy
all day long I'll have more energy so I'll play with them or I'll focus on them more
I'll listen to them more I'll be more creative with them I'll be a better mom or dad because
I have more energy because I have better Fitness because I'm training for a marathon
you see you connect the very specific goal train for a marathon but you connect it to that highest
mission and ideally in life it's not always possible maybe but I think you do it as much
as you can is that you connect all your goals in life all parts of your life to that mission so
that's why it needs to be a little more General because you're going to connect everything to it
third point about your mission you want to write it down put it on the wall somewhere
it needs to be you know like three four sentences I think is enough it doesn't
you don't want it to be super long then it gets you can't remember it
and you know it needs to be long enough to cover your life okay
the other thing about a mission you should write it and it should be based on action
verbs like I like to start it with the word to to do something so I'm going to
give you an example because it's my own mission okay I'm gonna give you my own
Mission this is the mission of effortless English it's also my own personal mission okay and uh if
you're a Star Trek fan you'll notice the pattern because I was inspired by the Rhythm it's not the
it's not what it's not doesn't come exactly from Star Trek but I was inspired from the Rhythm I was
watching a lot of Star Trek old TV shows when I made this and uh so I like the rhythm of it
okay so the effortless English mission my own mission is to explore new opportunities for growth
to bring confidence happiness and vitality to people all over the world to boldly go
where we where I have never gone before that last part is stolen from Star Trek okay so
let me review it again do you remember you notice it starts with two so it's
about doing something a mission is about what you do and why you do it in life it's about
what is the purpose of your actions in life you know this is fairly General right to
explore new opportunities for growth that's the first part of my mission so what is that
talking about so saying that when anything I do in life I want to focus on growing and learning
what does that mean it means becoming a better person that's what growth is Right
becoming a better person a more loving person aim or confident person a more virtuous person
right a more dharmic person you can use different ones right but you understand
it's this idea of growth growing right and in this idea is also the idea of constantly
learning learning learning learning lifelong learning always trying to learn to grow wiser
and better to become a better person that's what growth is for me so to explore so Explorer gives
this idea that uh I'm will I'm open I have an open mind I want to try new things I want to
that growing requires trying new things not just being comfortable all the time right explore new
opportunities for growth so I'm always looking for new chances to grow to become a better person
okay so that one's really a lot of that's about me that first sentence but the next sentence is all
about contribution it's about what can I do for other people right to bring confidence vitality
and happiness to people all over the world so to do some to contribute to other people which people
people everywhere in the world right effortless English is international so makes sense
so to bring so exactly how am I contributing this is where you need to be a little bit specific a
little bit specific okay so you don't want to be too General if you just say I want to help people
that's not specific enough okay that's a little bit too vague I want to help people you want to
how you know there's many ways to help people the key part of this is you want to tie this you want
to connect this part to your own personality and your strengths like how can you help people
like for example like I could have said I want to help people be calm and meditate
and have them have a more a more peaceful mind that's a nice way to contribute to
people why is that not my mission because my mind's not so calm so it's not my strength
I mean it's actually a weak point of mine is that I I I have a busy mind okay and so
I know it's a benefit but it's not really a way I can help a lot of people I mean I would
need a huge effort it just doesn't fit my own strengths my own personality so you know I go
to other people for advice about that and for help about that like a child for example so
um you want to tie your mission to your passions to your strengths to your own life experience to
your own personality so that you're you have a way you can help people you have a way you can
contribute to people it's different than me it's different than anybody else so this is the part of
your purpose your mission where you have to really think about it and think about like you know what
what is different about me how can I help I said some people are really peaceful and calm and
they can help other people do that that's wonderful I'm more of a high energy person
and I always have been so you know I'm more about bringing confidence Vitality
Vitality means energy it means physical energy emotional energy mental energy Life Energy
right that's why it's at the center it's that middle one because uh I
because I'm that way naturally I can help other people quite easily to get more energized to have
more Vitality more Life Energy more emotional energy more mental energy more motivation
more inspiration this connects to me because that's it connects to my strong points
right and to bring confidence confidence is another one why is that one important because
uh that one fits my life experience because I did when I was younger I was not confident
the opposite right when I was a teenager through my 20s uh even in the beginning in the beginning
of my 30s I was not confident at all I lacked confidence and it was a cause of a lot of pain
in my life a lot of problems a lot of failures a lot of difficulties and then I learned how to
become more confident how to be a confident speaker how to be confident in relationships
how to be confident and lots and lots of areas of my life and it changed my life in a big big way
made me a much happier person I achieved a lot more success a success meaning getting results
I wanted in my career jobs in relationships and everything traveling living the life I wanted
when I gained confidence I finally could had the strength and the motivation and the power to live
the life I wanted that I dreamed about right my I got to choose my own life and not just suffer in a
life that I didn't want so that's why confidence is important to me because this changed my life
and I now I can help other people get more confident so I understand people who are not
confident I understand how painful it is maybe it's just you can't speak English confidently
and I know that's painful maybe it's more General in your life you can't you're not confident in
general and you're not living the kind of life you want so I can help you this is part of my
mission I can help people in general because I did it I did it and uh and I'm passionate about that
becoming more confident helping people become more confident it's part of my own life story
so again it connects to me very personally and then happiness I like I don't want it to just
to be focused on um I don't want to just focus on material success right because and this is
just this connects to me also just because I'm uh you know very spiritual I'm a uh I'm a devotee I
and I know that happiness the deep that happiness is is a spiritual quality not Material okay so
just focusing on confidence and energy that's awesome but it it doesn't reach the low the
highest level right or the the you could say the center the lowest level the more Foundation
right because people there are a lot of coaches out there that do focus on that and you know it's
all about money and building your own business and you know tons of freedom and flying on private
airplanes and uh that's okay I guess but it's not me okay that's not me I don't care about any of
that stuff so um I I do want some you know I do I did want and I have Financial Freedom but why
so I can serve my family so that I can live the life I want right so you see all of these parts
of my mission connect to me as a person and how I can help and it's going to be different for you
because you're different so you have to look at your personality you look at your life experiences
like what what things have you overcome in your life maybe you can help other people do that too
what are your strong points you know things about your personality
that are that people always notice right and then what are your values
and then finally the last part of my mission the effortless English mission to boldly go
where I have never gone before where we have never gone before but for effortless English it's we
this is about how how or how am I going to do this this is about attitude
right how am I going to contribute to people how am I going to grow and learn boldly and this one
I got from Star Trek just because I liked it but I like that word boldly boldly go to boldly go
right so I'm not going to do it in a weak way I'm not going to do it in a scared way I'm not
going to do it in a careful way I'm not going to do it in a calm low energy way I'm going to
do it boldly with power with energy I'm gonna just take chances I'm gonna get out of my comfort zone
as much as I can I'm gonna push myself to do this to boldly go where I have never gone before
right again the idea of new experiences I am willing to try things keep my mind open and
keep learning and keep trying new things I'm 55 years old I'm going to keep trying
new things new experiences pushing myself okay when I'm 65 as long as I live as long as I can
still move and talk and think I'm gonna do it okay so that's what we're talking about so how
this gives you a nice structure you can play with for your own mission right so one is kind
of your own personal thing something like for me about growing and learning
the middle part is about contributing how will you how do you want to help other people
and which people people around the world just focusing on your family or your children
you know and then finally the third section of the third part how how do you want to do this
you want to do this spiritually you want to do this uh calmly you want to do this
rationally you want to do this passionately you want to do this boldly how right what's
kind of the general attitude you want to have in your life as you pursue this Mission and purpose
having some struggles with my microphone I'm going to move and adjust things a little guys
microphone keeps falling down here we go all right how's that is that better
all right there we go so that's it that's how you make your your mission now what I recommend is
write it down and you're gonna need some time like right just think just brainstorm right just think
of ideas and write them down write them down write them down for these three sections you can use a
different Rhythm than I did right you can use four or five sentences however you want to do it but
get these things down so you know kind of your personal Focus how you will contribute to people
and the Gen your general attitude that you want to have about life and write down your strengths
and how you can help people and all these things and then uh you know write it and then next day
rewrite it write it again the next day write it again until you get it exactly how you want it
and then you write it nicely and put it on your wall in your room on your you know next to your
computer or wherever in your office at your job or you can see it maybe write a small version
put it in your wallet or your purse and look at it and say it I used to chant this I when I was
doing uh I was on a I actually made this one when I was doing a pilgrimage a Buddhist pilgrimage and
Japan called the Chicago 88s and it's walk it's a one month a little more than a month
walking around the island of shikoku up and down mountains visiting temples
and since I was walking all day every day sometimes in my mind I would just chant
this to myself my mission is to explore new opportunities for growth to bring confidence
vitality and happiness to people all over the world to boldly go where I've never gone before
and I would say it again and I would chant it with energy like that now it's right in my mind
and sometimes if we were in the mountains and no one was around and my wife didn't get too annoyed
I would say it even out loud a little bit not yelling it but just like still say it out loud
that's why I haven't memorized okay so I recommend you memorize it memorize it say it with energy
this can become part of your morning routine saying your mission every day every day every day
and then final step now you have it you've memorized it now in life try to connect everything
you do to that mission your exercise goals connect them to the mission this is what I do
like why am I exercising so I have more energy why do I Want More Energy well to contribute to
my mission if I'm tired all the time it's hard to pursue opportunities for growth
it's hard to bring confidence Vitality happiness to people if I'm tired all the time
right it's hard to be bold when I'm tired
so I exercise so that I have energy what an energy for what to contribute right and of course I tie
this also to my family same thing I want to do this for my children bring them confidence
vitality and happiness and the number one thing I want for my children is for them to have you know
a happy life happy life that has meaning and purpose right this this connects to my mission
and so this is uh this affects a lot of my parenting decisions because you know
like for me a lot of parents focus on the academic stuff and job stuff so much I know
it has some importance okay but they they're obsessed with it so many parents do this and
they they don't focus on their child's long-term happiness they don't us they focus on their
their child's Spiritual Development or they don't focus on helping their child find a meaning and
purpose in their life all they care about is oh my kid has to get a good job and get good grades
and go to college and and get a good degree and then get a good job that's in a good career you
know and and it's just like all their effort and focus is on this and they kind of actually
you know lose a lot of their love and connection and and
relationship with their child because they're so crazy about school and in the future jobs
and money and work you know and so for me since I have this Mission I'm very clear and so that
stuff to me is not very important like I I I'm not really too focused on my kids you know learning to
read before everybody else learns to read or you know getting the highest score on their on some
math test or I don't really care about that stuff you know I know they need for life they
need General skills they'll you know by the time they are adults yes they'll need to build read
well because that's why because reading is such a useful tool for growth for growing and learning
you can still grow and learn without reading but reading helps because there's so many great books
out there right it's gonna speed up so of course I want my kids to be able to read they need to
survive so I know they need to have some kind of way of working and eating okay but uh beyond that
I'm much more focused that they have a purpose in their life a feeling of purpose and meaning
so that whatever work they do they're happy in that work fulfilled you know you get the idea
so even as a parent I connect my parenting uh actions behaviors goals um to my mission
so this is the power of a mission you can connect everything exercise diet uh your
personal life your family life your role as a father or mother and of course your work life
so this mission is also the exact same Mission as effortless English except I changed the last
you know the last sentence I change it from I to we but uh otherwise it's the same exact
mission for this is why I'm teaching English and this is why I teach English the way I do
right this is why I don't do a lot of lessons on the past perfect tense you can find a thousand
people doing that on YouTube already first of all second of all it's not effective and third
of all it does not fit my mission how does that help you become confident more confident
have more energy and more happiness in your life it doesn't so that's my mission with effortless
English that's why my all my lessons is focus on personal development topics and growth and
becoming a stronger better person and becoming more confident and a much better communicator
not only English but in general yeah I teach you English I teach you to be fluent in English
but much much more than that why because of my mission because I've connected effortless
English to my mission so this is why I'm kind of a different teacher I'm very different and
how and my lessons are very different in how I do it my style everything's different because uh my
mission is very different my mission is not to help the world master English grammar okay it's
not if someone else's mission is that that's fine okay it's just but it's not my mission so
your mission will shape your goals it will change your goals so it's important
it will also guide you and this is the power of making a mission and also you can change
it later okay it doesn't need to be perfect some people get paralyzed uh well what do I say oh they
get all crazy about it so it's not necessary do your best right now and you know two years from
now you can change it you know somebody maybe someone's 18 years old they're not I don't know
my purpose yet well just do your best and write something have something because it gives you a
guide It's like a compass right it gives you a a direction to go in your life so many young people
and older people too are lost they're lost they don't have and they're doing all these things in
life you know trying to get a better job to make money and working and try to get a girlfriend or
boyfriend and but they don't really have a guy they don't really have a deep strong powerful
understanding of why they're doing those things this Mission gives you the why it
will guide you it gives you guidance and also this Mission then helps you when you have tough times
you will have tough times but now your tough times also have a purpose right those tough times
are serving your mission also they can serve your mission
helping you grow stronger wiser right like for me the you know to seek out new opportunities
for growth growth can be painful growth can be difficult growth often does require
difficulties tough times so when I'm in a tough time yeah so maybe I'm not happy about it or you
know I'm not excited about it I'm not enjoying it but uh but I can still at a deeper level connect
it to my mission and realize okay this is tough but uh but I am growing I'm learning I'm growing
right for example as I said like the all the time with one of my children in the hospital and I'm
not sleeping and I'm sleeping basically on the floor in the hospital on a cot and uh getting no
sleep and so worried and so you know first of all is making me a stronger and better person
second of all I was there for my child right serving my child contributing to my child so
I realize when am I suffering who cares about my suffering my child's suffering more
so it'll it'll it'll really help you to have some kind of purpose in life you start to feel
the feeling of you know you have a meaning right and of course you can connect this to an ultimate
purpose I mean My ultimate purpose is you know Devotion to God and Dharma
but uh uh the mission and so that's why I use different words Mission and purpose so that's
purpose I mean I think that's we all share basically the same purpose in my opinion
which is what sanatana Dharma teaches and that is you know we're here to deepen our devotion
to God to transcend our ego all these things right but sometimes in life you know as we go around our
normal life and we're having to make money and buy food and deal with our kids you know we're doing
normal householder things uh we needed something a little more kind of in this world right and that's
where the mission the mission connects these kind of everyday little things to that highest
highest highest spiritual purpose that mission's kind of right there in the middle The Guiding us
guiding is guiding us keeping us true to our highest values so make a mission write it down
remember it memorize it say it every day connect all your goals in life to that bigger mission
let's get into our questions and comments now
so live on YouTube I've changed around my camera a little today this is why I'm
uh kind of moving around the microphone is moving and anyway
drink a little nice coffee too okay here we go
let's go back into our comments and questions first of all nice to see
our wonderful fans everyone's English who are here so many times in the live show uh I saw
akka I saw uzman off Dil Morata always is here a lot Fernando Amina and agrigoreva you know
I just recognize so many of your names now it's great okay I'm gonna back up here Fernando Diaz
all right let me just jump back okay here we go
oh there's someone saying hello from Syria hi I just want to say uh you know love from
Syria it's the first time on watching you live thank you Simone says Santana
says hi from Brazil hello to Brazil AKO good to see you AKO from Tokyo as always
Yeah Anna now Anna always has great comments and it says it's extremely difficult and extremely
important at the same time to find your mission some people are always in a rat race and they
can't find their life purpose through all of life it's terrible yes this is a great a great idiom in
English maybe in other languages you have it too rat race right rats he says I did little Rats from
running around just racing around without purpose right they're just chasing food but they have no
spiritual purpose no higher purpose right and this is what we call the rat race the rat race
when we talk about it in English it's just that it's that same thing of just you know get up go
to work come home watch TV go to bed get up go to work you know come home watch TV go to bed
this kind of routine of just you know just making money and surviving but with no feeling of purpose
or deeper known deeper meaning that's the rat race and it is depressing it is because you know there
are people who make a lot of money but they're in the rat race they have very big nice houses
but there's something missing inside there's an emptiness inside
right because they don't have that mission
so it is so important that's why you know you've got to do this you've got to do this
Chris Fontaine says God has a purpose for me yes he does
yes he does and uh you know this is this is how you start finding it figuring it out right
and and like I said it you know it doesn't have to be perfect you can change it later
as your life changes your life experience changes you can modify it and change it
but you know get something now and focus on it and then you can adjust it if you need to
yeah Kevin's got a nice thing my mission is to make myself worthy of this life
worth this so this life is worth it to find the value nice
Kevin also asked what brand is your microphone Road
the microphone's great it's this little um arm that holds it has been kind of falling
today I gotta tighten it up there we go there we go there we go okay here we go next question
jazooli says that's great teacher I remember the first time uh my English took off after
finding you that's great take off means to go up up like an airplane
cutie says I would like to help people change to become a better person
it's a good that's good that's good I would say that you want to
be more specific though so this is kind of uh it's too General
we want to be General but not too General right so two general is like I want to help people become a
better person I want to help people become better people I want to help I want to or even more vague
I want to help people that's too vague how how you gotta connect it to to some kind of strength
or experience from your life right so I you know my my mission also is to help people become
better but how right so for me it's confidence vitality and happiness right that connects to my
strengths you know so confidence energy and happiness if you want to use a simpler word
so you become better how there are a lot of ways to become a better person so you connect it to
what you're good at or your knowledge and your experience and your personality to make it a
little more specific not too specific but a little more specific than just help people be better
yes Fernando they're very good questions Fernando Diaz says uh you made me think about this topic
can I have several missions depending on different contexts different periods in
my life yes I think that is uh totally fine like to have for example a job Mission career Mission
and a personal mission but I think it's most powerful when you can combine them all into
one and it's it is a little difficult it's a little tricky right to like depending on your
what your what your job is like if you have a technical job you're a computer programmer
but then you want to serve people with you know by helping them be more healthy and energetic it's
like how do you connect those uh but you might be able to connect them it might just you need
some time I think it's okay in the beginning when you first start is to have different missions you
can have a a job a career Mission you might have a mission you know as a father or a
mother right but uh I I think it's keep thinking about it and you know rewriting them and do your
best to create one that will fit everything like this helped me a lot because yes I used to have
different uh that you know the reason it took me time to write the one I have because you know if
at first I it was kind of separate you know like how people become confident English speakers
okay that's fine but that's a good mission for my business everyone's
English but it's not a very good business for my family they already speak English so
that's why I had to make it a little less specific a little more vague bring confidence vitality and
happiness to people all over the world well now that fits anybody so it still fits you know maybe
with effortless English I'm focused a little more on English speaking to help you be more confident
right but I'm still teaching you to be energetic you know you know those of you or VIP members or
have bought power English the power English course you know I teach you a lot of techniques
for becoming more energetic and uh you know having more motivation more emotional power
emotion mental energy right so but then I also do that in my own family so it's nice when you
can connect them all and you also ask about kind of uh different times in your life might this
change I think yes it can but uh you know again it's best if this Mission at least generally
will serve you for many many years like I don't know when I'm 90 can I still help people have
more energy Maybe not maybe I gotta take that one out of the mission at that point if I don't have
it myself I might be a tired old man I don't know or I'm gonna be dead then it won't matter
I mean certainly as I get older the highest spiritual uh uh purpose will be most important but
but again you know I still have people be more as long as I can talk and move and
function decently I think I can still help people with most of these things
so it's best when try to think long term for this too and that's why it's
it's kind of tricky not too vague not too specific it's kind of right in the middle
cameras reading through the comments guzmannoff says if our mission is based on material things
we will feel empty after achieving them yes that's right and that's why you have to have
this contribution part that it's uh that it's uh it's these are in there's an internal part
for yourself like I said my first one is you know explore opportunities for growth so for me that
just means growing trying to be a better person right learning learning it's really about learning
so uh but then the second part is to you know to help other people right
so it's not just about make a lot of money for myself have the perfect body
you know these things are uh okay if they are connected to a higher purpose a higher mission
by themselves they're kind of empty what you find is that you may achieve those things and you feel
excited for a short time and then there's an emptiness and we can see this if you don't need to
experience it yourself you can see this with a lot of famous people a lot of rich and famous people
so they have achieved these incredible material goals lots and lots of money lots and lots of Fame
and yet we know many of them are not happy people sometimes we know this because you you'll
you'll get a glimpse of them when they're not pretending right where they're not
not on a talk show right you get news about their life somehow
and you realize oh my God this person has a lot of problems right so uh and
sometimes they kill themselves or they die of drug overdoses and things and so
those all those great material things did not make them happy or give them meaning
so those material things are okay but they must serve something higher
or else they do they're just meaningless because you know those material things they're all
gonna go they're all impermanent you know not permanent they will all disappear uh many of
them will disappear as you age and get older and all of them will disappear once you're dead so uh
that's the fundamental reason those kind of goals and a material type of mission will always
be unsatisfying inherently I mean this is what Gautama Buddha taught right like they always say
that they always uh I always see the translation of the you know the four noble truths the first
truth is always translated in English is life is suffering I don't know Paulie but it always
seems like a little bit of a slightly off like not exactly right that translation and uh I feel like
it should be more like uh material life is like if they give a long uh version in English life is
suffering is a night like very short but I think I feel like that the the truth the real heart of
it what Buddha was teaching too is that uh you know material life is inherently unsatisfying
right so anything that is material that is based on this physical world of ours you know this this
material things goals activities you know we have ups and downs and Pleasure and Pain but there's
something at the at the heart of them that's unsatisfying and what is it well they're all going
to disappear because none of them can last all right there's nothing none of them can continue
I mean with a nice comment says uh purpose can guide our life decisions
influence behavior shape our goals and offer a sense of direction and create meaning yes yes
yes great summary nice points that's right it's kind of a high level Compass it gives everything
else a direction and a meaning and a purpose all your other activities all your other goals
right that's why it's so powerful
okay and sorry the comments are I'll try to go faster the comments are coming in fast okay
I mean uh with a follow-up says the mission of this life is to take care my mission in
life is to take care of family great Follow My Religion great have freedom and have happiness
great great and got the contribution part which is take care of family
I think religion is also fundamentally about contribution service devotion nice
oh Anna says you're wearing a business suit today why do you look more formal and usually in casual
shorts I know I'm trying I'm going back to doing it I used to dress like this for most of my videos
in effortless English and uh I went back and I was looking at old video a bunch of old YouTube videos
of mine the recent ones from the last few years and then older ones and I realize they look nicer
it looked nicer I kind of I became a slob uh dressing a little too casually I think for
you all and there's nothing wrong with it it's my normal way I dress every day but um I don't know
I think it just shows a little respect to you to dress a little nicer so that's why I'm doing it
yeah this is a nice point that usmanov says is um our ancestors mission was to create a good life
after them yeah very nice point unfortunately most people never think about life after them the only
object they focus on is money yeah this is a nice point that our ancestors so many of our ancestors
and you can find this in their writing for example they they weren't only thinking about themselves
they were thinking about their ancestors their children their grandchildren their great
grandchildren right the generations that would follow them so they they weren't like oh let's
just use everything and destroy everything for ourselves and have a big party during our life and
oh our children tough luck we we used everything we destroyed everything you've got nothing right
this is the attitude of our general cultural attitude now sadly but um that's it's a good point
Kevin says in my opinion your job is based on cognitive psychology and science certainly yeah
cognitive psychology I agree yes science kinda I don't know depending on what you mean by that word
yeah MDK says uh 555 says uh one of my missions is to be stronger and wiser at life challenges
very nice and at low moments yeah that's a nice thing that's a great thing to focus on
because you know life's gonna have challenges it always will and so including this sort of like uh
it's almost like a Navy SEAL kind of attitude of like embrace them right part of my mission
part of you could say something like you know part of my mission is to uh you know
to embrace difficulty and challenges as opportunities for growth as opportunities
you know to become stronger as opportunities to become wiser so that you actually
welcome tough things difficulties problems yeah that's really nice I like it
Yeah Anna giving a point kind of commenting on what I was saying about as a parent she
said I know one family where the parents wouldn't allow their child to become an artist although we
always wanted it he finally became a teacher as his parents wanted now is he he is an extremely
unhappy person right this is exactly right this is the point like it's like those guys
those parents had it backwards the point is for the child to have a happy meaningful life
and then some job might help with that some career certainly we need to eat and have a place to live
okay I understand you ought to make some money but um but they got it backwards they people
get it backwards and they think that oh the the money and the job are the important thing
and then they sacrifice the happiness that's insane it's crazy it's crazy for
yourself it's crazy for your children I don't want my kids to be billionaires and miserable
that would be a failure for me as a parent oh I taught them to be billionaires and they're really
unhappy and miserable that would suck I'd much rather than be uh like I said it's it's happiness
and part of that happiness is also meaning and purpose I want them to have a to have and to feel
deeply meaning and purpose in their lives and to be happy and they're going to have tough times I
know how they do that I don't know maybe they'll be an artist maybe they'll be a musician maybe
they'll be a business person maybe they'll be just a father or mother and stay at home I don't
know what they're gonna do okay and the truth is I can't prepare them because technology is changing
so fast I have no idea what kind of jobs are going to be good in you know 15 20 years I don't know
right so why prepare them for one specific job you must be a doctor and then or you must be a
dentist or you must be a teacher and then who knows that job might even be gone in 20 years
with a very nice Mission short succinct worship God and help people nice only thing I would say
is that be a little more slightly more specific about helping people how there are many ways to
help people how can you specifically help people in a great way what what are your strong points
like what how can you help people like I gave the example uh you might help people you know learn
meditation and to be calm and have a calm peaceful mind and clear their mind that would be a very
nice way to help people right but that's not my mission I can't do that it's a weak point of mine
right I mean I guess I could try to do it but it's not connected to my strong points I would
I would really have a hard time helping people do that because I can't do it myself very well okay
now someone who who has meditated their whole life and their their they they have this they're uh you
know a monk or a nun or a charya or or they just have spent you know years and years and years and
years and meditating and well then yeah then you could be really good at that right so there are
many ways to serve God there are many ways to help people and you have your own way you can do this
right so find way or ways that are you can especially do this in a good strong way
Saint says my mission is to be fluent in English and work in a national school now this one's a
little more specific I'd say these are goals these are good goals no no huh these are very
totally great fantastic goals but I say there's still they're too specific and there's a time
limit being fluent in English you'll do it okay so that's going to end you will achieve that work at
an international school okay and let's say maybe in two years you get a job so now both of those
things you achieve them well now what are you going to do with your life what's your mission
you achieve the goals what's next right that's why that's really these are goals so what's the bigger
reason why do you want to speak English fluently how are you going to help people by by speaking
English fluently I mean how are you going to help people working in an International School is it is
your motivation to help and serve your family give a better life for your family that's a mission
maybe it's more about your students and helping students have better lives that's also a mission
right so you gotta find the contribution in there how are you going to help others
with those things but those are good goals just grow them a little bigger to make it a mission
yeah get Tran trong says I have a personal notebook that I where I write ever my every
idea my principles my experiences my goals my mission in life and going deeper and deeper over
time this is such a great habit wonderful comment trunk right a notebook a journal
a diary where you're constantly writing about these things thinking about them ideally every
day and then you'll really well figure these things out very very clearly it's very powerful
Anna says I can definitely say to be fulfilled To Be So Satisfied to be satisfied you have
to find your life mission definitely otherwise you'll be an unhappy person
says God has a oops I just jumped yes AJ God has a purpose and I have found it this is what has
changed my life 100 I can say that I am happy when you find your purpose your meaning your mission
this is a deeper happiness that will help you through tough times
you know happiness is tricky because people confuse happiness with pleasure
pleasure is up temporary feeling good and it goes up and down it goes away and it comes back and uh
happiness is something deeper it's possible to be struggling and in pain but still happy
says hi from New York City uh now I care about Karma
I hope it's not too late it's not too late bring love and light to this world there's
enough Blackness I'm not religious uh an atheist but karma makes sense karma is is a fundamental
spiritual law exactly and so basing your mission on Karma right is wonderful great idea
says thank you for your advice and energy you're an excellent person
greetings from Argentina Argentina from Miguel storms thank you Miguel
oh this is nice Surah part of these says I want to live life joyfully that's a great
comment right that's about that attitude of life right like mine mine is to go boldly this is a
great one I want to live life joyfully see that's going to affect everything he does
everything he does he's going to try to do it joyfully it's a love life
and at the end of the day matter in life this is see this is great
you're an amazing coach lots of love from India wonderful that's a great one I like it very nice
see this is cool Fernando Vallejo says my mission is to help people obtain their
retirement I am a lawyer awesome now what I would do to make it a mission
is then add a little bit of a more spiritual or emotional part which is why
okay obtain their entire retirement is great you're definitely helping people
but why like like like why and how what kind of retirement and why why is that important
how will that help people right I can think of a lot of reasons give them give them freedom
right to give to give them freedom to give them security you know there's lots of things that you
do so this is wonderful that's a great what you're doing and just just connect it at a little bit
more General higher you know emotional spiritual level and I think you got it perfect like this is
a great this is kind of a great job Mission and if you just make it a little more General I think
you will have it for a whole life mission that's it's very nice what you're doing though it's great
okay a couple more and I'm taking my kids out today as usual let's see
yeah Fernando Diaz with a nice comment says through the years I've had kind of
vague ideas about my mission in life but maybe I wanted to reach too much I needed to focus more
uh and I separated my purposes to handle the topic better it's totally fine there's
nothing wrong with it but uh just give it some time and think about it think about it and you
might be able to start connecting them connecting them and then merge them combine them into one
that don't feel any pressure to do it but just uh give it some thought
I'm saying nazari says hi Jay first I love you when it comes
to motivation and energy you're my energy trainer I believe I watched
and listened to your videos uh more than a hundred times thank you that's a lot
nice trunks as my mission is to create value for my community and to create a truly meaningful
happy family oh I love that one that's nice very nice see see how powerful these is when you know
it's right you know you've got a good Mission when you read it when you say it and you feel
this energy inside you like you feel inspired by it right just reading it you feel like yeah like
there's an emotional energy that pops up when you read it when you think about it if that doesn't
happen if there's no like inspiration you don't feel excited about it then keep working on it
it's not quite right okay so like I read that and like as a father create a truly meaningful
happy family like oh that's a great phrase that makes me excited okay that's a good one
have you come back to your Facebook or is it fake AJ is that husband off yes I'm back on my
Facebook they unbanned me or unsuspended me it was suspension I couldn't do anything on my account
now I can so it's facebook.com slash effortless English there are a bunch of fakes out there but
my official one that's actually me I'm posting some little short clips from this show on on
Facebook and it's also me on Twitter again since Elon Musk took over uh my account is unsuspended
so however long that lasts I'll use it
um and he's just asking about my courses online
yes uh on the screen you see my website effortlessenglishclub.com
that's my website go there effortlessenglishclub.com and
you just join up for a class of course oh by the way if you do have a course already
our courses website crashed today let's see if it's up yet I don't know what's going on anyway
the tech people are working on it it might take a day or two as usual yeah still down
sorry don't know what's going on we'll figure it out as usual I used to panic
when these things happen now I'm just used to it it'll always get solved so we'll figure it out
yeah van says I was following your advice and your podcast speak English in six months you're right
if I achieve fluency other people can do it too you only need to follow your advice yes you know
I do this when you join my VIP program uh you'll get for 10 days the first 10 days right I'll send
you one email every day and each email has a link to a video not from me but from another VIP member
someone who has improved a lot so each of those videos is I'm not even in the video at all I'm not
talking to them they made them these these members made the videos themselves that was really nice of
them but they talk about how they did it and that you know in the beginning just like you they they
had problems speaking and they had difficulty and then they you know as VIP members in their case
they for your peer members and they you know achieved fluency most of them got better jobs
using their English lots of other nice benefits and they talk about that and that's the point
though and that's what I'll tell you in the emails when you get them is that they did it so you can
do it they're not like superhumans okay they're not like superhumans and different than you
they're regular people like me like you they did it and so you can do it too that's a good point
okay I got a couple more and we're almost done I'm catching up on the comments finally
loyalty Rd says AJ you are the best I found you four months ago you changed my life
Hussein nazari says AJ first I love you my mission is to persuade people that they can
learn English by themselves and last part of mine too okay one of my tasks one of my jobs
is to persuade people they can do it by themselves right they can you can do it you're an independent
learner Independent Learning is the way to go in life not schools not I mean you know
it's funny because people talk about you know online classes and the cost in fact I have to
raise my prices soon guys everything's getting expensive I since 2006 I've had the same exact
prices on all my courses but I finally have to raise them so if you want the cheaper prices
Now's the Time get over to my website get a course join VIP because they're all going up
uh but anyway even when they go up people some people say oh it's expensive but it's not if you
go and call around look around at English schools in your town or in a city near you
uh even uh some of the classes online that are more like normal schools some of these places uh
will do even online classrooms and you know kind of the normal school methods of teaching English
man they're expensive okay I mean like you know 150 dollars per week per week all right I mean
400 500 bucks or more per month okay people are doing paying this
and the results are not even that good you know it's just textbooks and it's all the usual stuff
that you've already done for many years you know it's not that great because you've done it already
so you know you have to realize when you're looking at I don't know people somehow when
they look at uh independent courses they suddenly oh the prices they worry about the price because
oh my God it's 300 300 is cheap compared to going to a school in your town if you're going to go to
a school every day or even two three times a week if you're gonna go to a school in a classroom
much much more money and less effective I know it's nice it's maybe it seems kind of nice because
you're there and you can you know see the teacher and you're in a room and where people are used to
that they're used to schools because as a child as kids growing up we're used to going to classes and
sitting in a desk and sitting at a table so it feels normal so people pay a lot more money for
that but it's not very effective it's much less effective than learning independently with your
iPod or your phone and just listening to audio lessons or whatever and watching videos and things
like that it's much more effective more convenient you can just go outside go for a walk and listen
to you know my English lessons or anything else and so then if you look compare the prices like
that it's cheap you know even 300 even 500 is cheap because it's 500 for a whole year or for two
years right instead of 500 for one month and then the next month again five hundred dollars right or
400 or 200 so schools are expensive and then look at universities yikes right I'm talking about just
an English school a language school they're very expensive universities are thousands of dollars
thousands of dollars you're paying for crap garbage
how many people learn to speak fluently in English from a university course
I know very few people in fact I probably know nobody because most anybody who does
succeed it's because they're doing extra things at home learning independently
nobody learns to speak English from a high school English class nobody learns to speak
English fluently from a university class they don't because it's not effective yet they're
spending thousands and thousands of dollars for these classes thousands of dollars and wasting it
so it's much better to spend you know even a decent amount on some kind of online learning
Independent Learning not just English okay so I'm not just selling my own course here I'm talking
about any topic any topic right like uh I'll give you a personal example business so I'm you know
I'm always studying business and marketing and web design so which is better for me I could go to a
university even an online university and then get a degree you know and study you know uh marketing
I could get a master's in business in marketing or I could uh you know join some software or you
know website development University course and spend thousands and thousands of dollars and
years and years usually and at the end no useful skills or almost zero useful skills
huge amounts of time and energy and money wasted no way that's not what I do I do not
have a degree in business and I never will right I read books I just find books on Amazon eBooks
I take Internet courses I sign up for internet courses some of them are you might think although
it's expensive I just joined a marketing course and I had to pay almost 700 dollars
600 something dollars so you say oh man that sounds expensive not compared to a university
a university is thousands of dollars and this online course I joined for seven hundred dollars
is really good it's really effective it's very practical it's like how do you do it now right
very useful very practical excellent so 700 is cheap compared to some business
you know course or university that I would spend thousands of dollars going to a classroom
sitting taking notes and at the end have very little I could actually use in my real business
so Independent Learning is the way guys 100 percent you'll get better results faster and
cheaper so anything you want to learn in life do it independently don't go to a classroom
Ibraham Ali good another he's speaking of VIPs and super fans Abraham good to see you as always
I'm going to end with his comment because he's awesome
he says I spent a huge amount of money on English courses I was studying in a
Language Institute it was a nine month course but unfortunately it was a waste of time and money
yeah I know right so many people have this story I remember like in uh
uh well actually here in Japan but cert and also in Thailand they have these big schools should I
name names I'm going to name names why not there's like Wall Street English and berlitz and you know
you go to the classes and man they're expensive so expensive and I know people Thai people Japanese
people who have been going to these schools for years and years and years they spending
huge amounts of money and time at these schools and their speaking is terrible you know not to be
mean but it's just true the results are terrible much better to do it independently much better
I'll give you the final example I'll give you my own failure I just give my University degree
my uh my first University degree I was stupid and got more um my bachelor's degree is in journalism
and I never even used it and I learned I mean I can't even think like in four years what did I
learn in four years at College at University I had fun I mean socially it was great it was awesome
so that's nice but it was an expensive way to have fun it was an expensive party um
I mean like actual useful skills like you would think journalism for example
journalism well I must have learned to be a good writer in a journalism
program surely they taught me how to be a good writer nope they did not
they taught me I mean I wrote academic papers and yeah I guess I learned some really basic ideas
about writing a news story but I could learn those ideas from an e-book on Amazon for ten dollars
instead I was spending not just thousands tens of thousands of dollars to get that degree
and what kind of useful skills did I get you know like journalism skills nothing I learned
I focused on a lot on video journalism like television so you would think oh you maybe
you learned how to be a great editor of videos and how to create amazing videos
I did not crap I learned crap about that I was garbage at making videos at the end of my
four years of study I learned more about making videos again what from playing on my computer
playing with YouTube and a few ebooks way better I've learned more than four years of Journalism
and focused on video and and Broadcasting so it's terrible what a waste good Lord so you
know I know so many of us are like this we have this experience maybe for you it's in English
but uh this is how you need to judge these you know independent courses and online learning
okay and again I'm not just trying to sell mine I'm talking about anything you want to learn
like some of you maybe want to learn business and there's a lot of business courses online
you know in marketing and making a website and selling whatever it is there's lots of training
do that even if you spend a thousand dollars on for an online course it's
cheap compared to going to a university or a school and also yeah you know not always
but usually it will be better training it will be more useful more practical
faster so yes learn independently all right guys I got kids in the other room and they're all saying
I want to go outside take us outside and play with us so time for me to go all right lots
of love to you so to summarize your mission your mission in life is so important it will
give you purpose that will give you meaning it will inspire you and energize you for everything
else you do in life your family life your career everything all your goals connect to your mission
so take time watch this video again write your mission down work on it until you have it then
memorize it say it every day connect all your life goals to your mission you will be happier you'll
be more motivated you'll have a better life go to effortlessenglishclub.com that's where you can get
my courses power English VIP everything else lots of love to you see you next time [Music] thank you